Feminist Satire, or Actual Attitudes?

Looking through this site, I could have SWORN this was satire. Alas, I was mistaken.

This is the actual tagline to an article:

“Have you made any of these mistakes while trying to be chivalrous or kind? They’re really common, and a lot of guys don’t understand why they’re not okay. This comic will clear things up for you. Find out what you’re getting wrong, and get the keys to being kind without entitlement, dominance, or other sexist microaggressions.”

That’s right–find out why a common act of kindness actually makes you unkind and subject to a politically detestable label.

From the comically dramatic men and silent-and-dignified women, it indeed smacks of delicious satire, like an episode of SNL. It’s not. I would have laughed if it were.
I think this is why so many people don’t like what modern feminism has become, and why real conversations about supporting women’s rights keep hitting road blocks.

Using this same logic, a woman NOT holding the door for me or NOT picking up my heavy groceries is a sexist micro-aggression because they are unconsciously assuming that I can handle it because I’m a man. Not responding with a thank you when someone holds the door for you is uncomplicated–it’s rude, whether you’re a man or a woman. Is not responding to such a gesture rendered by a man because he is a man a sexist micro-aggression? Or is it perhaps a micro-aggression to see that the kindness of a male is reduced to his desire for romantic and/or sexual expression?

Hating on innocuous acts only fuels micro-anger, and is not too far away from paranoia. If you want people to get along, you can’t insist that they have ulterior motives or unconscious lust in everything they do.

You may just receive that in return. I’m sure there are more micro-aggressions to be found just lurking around somewhere.

Judge not, that ye be not judged.For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again.


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